Receiving is an act of love

Giving has always been a lot easier than taking for me.  It’s vulnerable to ask for help because in asking for help you’re admitting that you’re not perfect.  I think our culture really values self-suffiency, sometimes to a detriment. It’s become cool to be hyper independent and not need anybody. But If we were meant to do everything ourselves, we would’ve been put on this earth alone. 

The past months have taught me that receiving is an act of love. When you let someone take care of you or teach you something, you are showing them that you trust and value them. The opportunity to help is a gift and depriving someone of that because you want to seem like you have it all figured out hurts both parties. 

 I’ve been challenging myself to open my heart to receive even when it’s uncomfortable and the result, so much growth. We grow when we share our mistakes, when we let our imperfections be witnessed. I never realized how much energy I spent trying to make it seem like I had it all together. Energy I could’ve spent on actually getting it together. 

If  there were times your vulnerability was used against you or looked down upon, it can be hard to let people in, but a real healthy connection requires both giving and taking. If you’re giving all the time, you attract people who are happy just to take and it reinforces the mentality that there's no point of asking for help. We all deserve people who care enough to meet our needs and who get happy making us happy. Sometimes the best way to show someone you love them, is to let them love you, and to let them love you is to let them see you for all of who you are.

Keep shining your light!

-BG <3